Let me tell you a story...
And maybe you can help me understand it a little better?
There's this beautiful girl and she's being "courted" by these two men. One man is a little wiser, very good looking, not conceited, has life experience and is comfortable in his own skin. The other man is selfish, rude, inconsiderate, flirty with everyone, doesn't know WHO he is or where his life is going, can't be alone, but loves to have fun fun fun. Now this lovely lady had the opportunity to go one weekend on a trip and spend time with both men. One of those men doesn't have any other women in his life and is only interested in getting to know this lady while the other man goes out and courts as many women as possible in as short a time span as possible.
So these three go on this trip and the lady spends a little time with each at first but then decides she's going to spend more time with the second guy. The first guy is crushed. He has honorable intentions and wants nothing more than to get to know her better and possibly to have a relationship if they end up being compatible. His feelings are rather hurt and so he comes home after this trip and talks to his friend. He tells this friend that the lady spent a vast majority of her time with the other fellow and that he feels he should just take himself out of the running to save not only his dignity but his feelings and time as well. The friend is terribly upset and doesn't know what to say. Why in the world would any woman choose to spend all her time with a man that wants nothing to do with her? Why would she waste her energy when there is a perfectly wonderful man that wishes for nothing more than a chance to get to know her? The friend is profoundly confused.
So, after reading this story is there any chance any of you could explain to me why a woman would choose the lesser of the two men? Because as the friend to all but one in this situation I have no idea why this happened.
There's this beautiful girl and she's being "courted" by these two men. One man is a little wiser, very good looking, not conceited, has life experience and is comfortable in his own skin. The other man is selfish, rude, inconsiderate, flirty with everyone, doesn't know WHO he is or where his life is going, can't be alone, but loves to have fun fun fun. Now this lovely lady had the opportunity to go one weekend on a trip and spend time with both men. One of those men doesn't have any other women in his life and is only interested in getting to know this lady while the other man goes out and courts as many women as possible in as short a time span as possible.
So these three go on this trip and the lady spends a little time with each at first but then decides she's going to spend more time with the second guy. The first guy is crushed. He has honorable intentions and wants nothing more than to get to know her better and possibly to have a relationship if they end up being compatible. His feelings are rather hurt and so he comes home after this trip and talks to his friend. He tells this friend that the lady spent a vast majority of her time with the other fellow and that he feels he should just take himself out of the running to save not only his dignity but his feelings and time as well. The friend is terribly upset and doesn't know what to say. Why in the world would any woman choose to spend all her time with a man that wants nothing to do with her? Why would she waste her energy when there is a perfectly wonderful man that wishes for nothing more than a chance to get to know her? The friend is profoundly confused.
So, after reading this story is there any chance any of you could explain to me why a woman would choose the lesser of the two men? Because as the friend to all but one in this situation I have no idea why this happened.
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Sad story. But it's hard to explain. And I know no matter what I say, you'll just think i'm defending him ...
Trust me, it's not how you explained it. There's a lot to the second guy that you don't know. And he's changed. He doesn't try to get with everyone, he knows what he wants to do with his life and he's doing things to get there.
I know you're all about the first guy, and I'm not against him. I like him too and will very much try to spend more time with him... but you also don't see/know Mr. Back-burner the way I've gotten to know him. Things have definitely changed from before.
I love you. And I'm so glad you are my friend!!
~Steph
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