Long Term Dating
I was talking to my sister, Amber, on the phone last night about all the recent engagements and how short they are. We then progressed from short engagements to talking about dating patterns. Some people, when they know... they know, they get engaged and married within a few months of dating one another. Other people may know that they're with the person they want to be with but perhaps they're not ready to get married just yet. Why is that a problem?
According to my sister if you're dating someone for over a year and you're not engaged yet there's something wrong with that. I personally don't understand that logic. Maybe if you've been dating for 4 or 5 years and you're not ready to be married I could understand that being problematic, but if you're together a year or two and you're not ready to get married, why is that a problem?
I've been raised a Mormon. All throughout the youth program, as a young woman, marriage is the next step. You grow up, you finish High School, you go to college, you get married, you pop out kids. Guys were a taught the same thing; grow up, finish high school, serve a mission, go to college and get married. It's so frustrating, especially for those who don't get to get married or don't date much. I understand the importance of getting married and I understand why they want to emphasize marriage but what's wrong with waiting? What's wrong with dating someone for a longer period of time, making sure you really know who they are and that you're in love and that you want to spend the rest of eternity together. Not everyone knows right away and even if they do it doesn't mean that they are ready to be married. I guess that's just my personal opinion, maybe I'm missing the settling down gene or maybe I've just been the broken hearted for too long...but I just can't figure out why in the world people feel the need to rush.
My opinon...slow down. Relax. Enjoy life. We don't all want to be married at 21 and have 6 kids by the time we're 25. Some of us are perfectly okay with waiting.
According to my sister if you're dating someone for over a year and you're not engaged yet there's something wrong with that. I personally don't understand that logic. Maybe if you've been dating for 4 or 5 years and you're not ready to be married I could understand that being problematic, but if you're together a year or two and you're not ready to get married, why is that a problem?
I've been raised a Mormon. All throughout the youth program, as a young woman, marriage is the next step. You grow up, you finish High School, you go to college, you get married, you pop out kids. Guys were a taught the same thing; grow up, finish high school, serve a mission, go to college and get married. It's so frustrating, especially for those who don't get to get married or don't date much. I understand the importance of getting married and I understand why they want to emphasize marriage but what's wrong with waiting? What's wrong with dating someone for a longer period of time, making sure you really know who they are and that you're in love and that you want to spend the rest of eternity together. Not everyone knows right away and even if they do it doesn't mean that they are ready to be married. I guess that's just my personal opinion, maybe I'm missing the settling down gene or maybe I've just been the broken hearted for too long...but I just can't figure out why in the world people feel the need to rush.
My opinon...slow down. Relax. Enjoy life. We don't all want to be married at 21 and have 6 kids by the time we're 25. Some of us are perfectly okay with waiting.
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that's the best thing to say to that... but I completely agree.
Why do you think the divorce rates are so high these days?? People don't really know each other before they rush into marriage. Crazy kids!
I understand not being ready but isn't that kind of a lack of faith? If Heavenly Father said this is the right person for you then why wait? I wasn't ready but I also wasn't going to tell Heavenly Father nope sorry not ready maybe in a yr. Mostly out of fear that if I'm not willing to do it on His time then who's to say He'll do it on mine. Sorry I agree with your sister if it's more then a yr what's the point? Been there done that and it was a wasn't of time.
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