Identity Theft

Why is it that whenever people get into a relationship they disappear? Of course, not everyone is guilty of this but I have found throughout the years that a vast number of my friends vanish from the scene once they acquire that illusive significant other. The results of this are much worse when there are rings and vows involved.

Throughout High School this would always happen, someone would achieve relationship status and suddenly they were no longer available to hang out. I always found this odd because I never lacked in the relationship area in school and I always wanted to go hang with my friends. In college it only got worse and then once friends began taking the big dive we call marriage they suddenly became a mere memory...aaahhh the good 'ol days.

I can totally understand wanting to spend every waking second with someone you love, really...it may not seem like it but I honestly do...at the same time though, I love my friends and I love going out.

Often men are the one's in the cartoons and television shows who get saddled with the ball and chain jokes mostly because their lady wants nothing more than to spend every second spooning on the couch or watching the tube together or whatever it is modern couples do. I have found that women aren't the only ones guilty of preventing their significant other from going out and doing, a lot of guys turn into homebodies once they're taken. One of my closest guy friends got married and he hates going anywhere, which is funny because his wife used to love going out until they got together...it's almost as if one's habits rub off on the other.

My favorite relationship is Sara and Paul. Paul goes out on Thursdays to ride his motorcycle with his guy pals and Sara couldn't care less...she often calls me to go shopping on those nights. Once she's done breast feeding we're planning to go clubbing again. She told me numerous times before she got married to him that there was no way her social life was going to suffer because she was getting married. I love it! I know I have several other married friends that still like going out with or even without their partner.

I just can't understand why people ditch their friends once they get married. Sure you're supposed to be focused on your spouse, they are your life and love, but that doesn't mean you have to give up all the fun you had once upon a time... heck bring 'em along! I guess the thing is, most people see their single friends and know that they're "on the prowl" (so to speak) and they already have their Prince/Princess Charming and are all too happy to get away from being around the single crowd. Singles go to bars and clubs and all kinds of social events mostly trying to meet someone and once you have that someone why go out to those places anymore? I'll tell ya, because it's fun! Like I said, just bring your spouse along too! I mean what could be more fun than spending time with your awesome friends and including that someone special in the mix? Nothing I tell ya, absolutely nothing!